Hypnosis Horizons, Inc.
I asked one of my friends for a testimonial about the experience she had with me and the following is what she wrote. She is a counselor herself. She mentions aspects of the work we all do on ourselves in terms that I had not really thought about but they make much sense. I do hope you read the whole thing.
Moments of Change
The best therapies are those where you walk out of the office and wonder why you even paid the guy/woman since you feel that you did most if not all of the work yourself. Those are the therapists that actually work the hardest. Telling other people what to do is easy. Showing them their problem zones and pointing out solutions, is easy. And one doesn’t have to stem from a lineage of ancient gypsies to find out what makes another person sad or blocks their progress. People in distress leave trails of clues.
But it takes a finely skilled and personally very matured individual to combine intuition and empathy with just the right professional tools to help another human being on their path of self-discovery, to help them find their way to that crucial crossroad where they may discover that perhaps some "dead ends” only existed in their heads because of habit, or not yet knowing how to shift perspective, or not feeling able to change (also known as “Everybody else can, just not me ! Why (not) me ??”).
This “Aha-moment”, this moment of revelation, of deep joy, of feeling in touch with yourself, and knowing that not only you can be, but that you already are so much more than what your mind formed by education, society, bad experiences and consequently developed habits of self-doubt and/or self-pity allowed you to see of yourself and of your own potential … this moment holds a fantastic healing power and forward drive.
It happens to also coincide with the moment that brings the therapist his/her greatest pride and satisfaction, the “Yup, now he/she’s got it !” immediately followed by the “Ain’t I a fine therapist?” moment (believe it or not, your therapist IS also a human being). I’d like to invite you to have a closer look at this moment, because it is my conviction that it is this precise moment that separates the wheat from the chaff in the realm of professional helpers.
It is, for the person seeking professional help, the moment of their greatest strength - one finally sees a way out of one's predicament, feels carefully confident or perhaps even fully energised and ready to live life to the fullest from now on.
But it is at the same time a moment of great fragility and insecurity (shifts in consciousness are almost by definition fragile moments). One has not fully realised yet that one made it happen or what exactly "IT" is that one made happen. All one knows or feels is that something, somewhere inside, shifted. And because the mind is used to doubting itself and its capacities, it will soon look to define this as a "momentary lapse of strength”, something that could have only been given from the outside, comparable to an emotional or spiritual power drink that will sooner or later lose its effect. More often than not one is all too ready to believe that this “something” will inevitably be unable to sustain itself.
And that’s where, after the initial work, begins the deeper work, and I’d almost say the real work - in order to implement lasting change as opposed to a temporary patch of "make-feel-good”, it is essential that the therapist reinforces the clients' trust in the fact that the hope, the strength and the energy that he/she is feeling are not “graciously given” from an outside power source, but spring from their own inner source, which was always there, just waiting to be freed from under the clutter of perceived impossibilities, and tapped into. Once one realizes this, one becomes truly free, in control of oneself, and … one may actually never need professional help again.
That’s why a good therapist, after having invested all of himself into helping you get to your core, always steps back and lets you have it all for yourself, even insists that you own your revelation, your process and your progress. By doing so he not only shows true humility (that’s not a genetically inherited quality, it actually takes hard work on oneself to get there), but he helps you set yourself free, and be able to carry yourself by the strength of your own wings.
Being a true professional is to help you find and unlock your gift to yourself : you, your life, your freedom.
I could have made this a lot shorter and just said that I think Phillip’s a great guy who devotes his life to continuously helping others while staying in the background, but that would have been boring and - it wouldn’t have made him blush ;-)